ARIE Luyendyk and his wife Lauren have revealed why couples who get engaged on The Bachelor and The Bachelorette split immediately after filming ends.
The former Bachelor knows what it’s like. He was the season 22 lead who got down on one knee and proposed to Becca Kufrin, but then broke up with her on camera and got back with the runner-up Lauren Burnham, 31.
GettyArie and Lauren Luyendyk confessed to The U.S. Sun the real reason why they believe couples haven’t stayed together after their season[/caption]
Jared Tyler/@thejarrbearThe Luyendyks also shared their secret to a successful marriage four years post show[/caption]
The two wed in a romantic wedding ceremony in Maui, Hawaii, in January 2019 and now have three kids together.
“I think it’s just really difficult to meet somebody on this show and to jump back into real life. We have so many similarities and I think a lot of it was just the fact that we did have probably a little bit of a rocky ending to our show, but it brought us together because we really had this sort of like us versus the world mentality,” Arie, 41, explained to The U.S. Sun on how he has made his relationship with Lauren work.
“And I think that’s what carried us in the beginning because we did have to overcome so much.
“But it’s all about communication and I think we’ve always been really good at understanding what the other needs and talking about things and talking things through, and that’s been something that has really been important.”
‘HIGH PRESSURE’ SET
Lauren, who worked with Arie to launch the date planning app DUO, shared her thoughts on the process post-filming: “I don’t wanna take away from Ari’s answer, but I feel like every finale kind of since our season has just been, like, trying to top the next one to be more dramatic too.
“And I feel like when you’re put in such a very high pressure situation, it can make or break your relationship. And I think it’s hard for some couples to bond together through that, and it’s just easier to separate.”
SECRET TO SUCCESS
The Luyendyks – who are parents to daughter Alessi, 3, and one-year-old twins Senna and Lux, – spent the last few months working on launching their app that they created during the pandemic.
Users can swipe through hundreds of creative date ideas to plan a fun date, or even select the ‘surprise date’ option.
“Back to The Bachelor, we’ve always been used to going on these extravagant fun dates.
“Lauren created these really fun dates in the backyard [during the pandemic]. She did like a movie night with, like, an inflatable movie screen,” Arie explained where the inspiration came from.
“It’s always been obviously part of our story and we’ve never stopped dating.”
Jared Tyler/@thejarrbearOn March 1, they launched their date planning app called DUO[/caption]
Lauren added: “We never stop learning about each other. We try to just always be putting ourselves outside of our comfort zone and we are constantly discovering new things about each other still, even after being married for four years… I think it keeps it exciting.”
The couple has lead a quiet life in Scottsdale, Arizona, where they ended up purchasing a home and settling down together.
“I think too a little distance from the franchise and a little distance from being on TV right after The Bachelor instead of moving to LA [helped],” Arie further stated about the couple’s success.
“We really just sort of focused on each other and our family and building a life together.
“And I think that’s something that is really important because I feel like a lot of couples kind of get lost when it comes to post-show relationship.”
BACK TO REALITY TV
Arie and Lauren have yet to catch up on this season of The Bachelor with Zach Shallcross due to their busy schedules and raising their little ones.
However, the former race car driver recently returned to reality TV and competed on Peacock’s The Traitors.
Arie voluntarily walked away from the game show so that the winner, Cirie Fields, could take home the $250,000 prize.
The father of three told The U.S. Sun that the Survivor star did “an incredible job” and she “really did deserve to win.”
But, in the end, “it wasn’t in the cards” for him to take home the jackpot.
Lauren joked that she wanted her husband to win because “he left me with three kids for a month by myself.”
“I just didn’t have that feeling of trust with her. So I really kind of avoided her in the house, to be honest.
“She went home quite early, but now watching back, she really had a great radar on who the traitors were. We should have kept her around longer in hindsight.”
Next, Arie would love to see Chris Harrison tackle The Traitors.
“He would have such a poker face and he is so great at just delivering a line that I think he would be great because the Chris that I know and the Chris that’s on [The Bachelor], they’re like very different people,” he said.
“Chris is very down to earth and funny, and I don’t think we as a viewer at home really got to see that side of him being a host for so many years… I think it would be fun to see him in that scenario.”
Arie and Lauren’s new app, DUO: Dates Unlike Others, is available to download for free in the app store.
ABCArie proposed to Lauren during the After the Final Rose in 2018[/caption]
Instagram/@laurenluyendykThey now share three kids together: Alessi, Senna and Lux[/caption]